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"Three Easy Ways to Improve Your Child's
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Part 2 - "The 6-Second Key to the Floodgates of
Respect"
Here's the third thing you need to know about
your child with ADD/ADHD (attention-deficit
/hyperactivity disorder).
Without treatment, your child has a short attention
span, perhaps only six seconds.
That means that he or she listens for only six
seconds at a time.
That's why parents often suspect that their child
with ADD/ADHD has selective hearing.
That's why kids with ADD/ADHD often have trouble
learning numbers, the alphabet, speaking
correctly, and social manners.
When your child is impulsive and doesn't listen,
you and other supervising adults get exasperated.
And that's when adults make the #1 biggest mistake
with children with ADD/ADHD…
Repeating requests and complaints over and over.
It will not make your child listen and comply.
Here's why.
If you talk longer than 15 seconds, your child
gets bored.
Boredom is painful to kids with ADD/ADHD because they
can't concentrate on topics that are not interesting
to them.
If you bore your child, he or she feels disrespected
and misunderstood.
That leads to anger.
Then to distrust of authority figures.
Then to opposition.
Now you know why 65% of kids with ADHD develop ODD
(oppositional defiant disorder).
Most folks don't know that ODD can be delayed or
prevented if you learn to respect what your child
can't do.
The first proof of your new understanding is to
talk in six-second bits.
When you teach a task, correct your child's actions,
offer feedback, and share your feelings…
Always break down information and instructions into
"six-second" chunks and single-idea sentences.
Then pause.
It may seem awkward at first but your child will
like it. Because he or she will know you finally
understand and respect him or her.
The six-second rule is doubly effective if you
choose neutral words (you'll learn more about
that in Part 3).
And speak in a flat monotone. If you really want
your child's attention, whisper.
That way you can give information without arousing
any negative emotion. You'll sound confident and
self-assured.
Here's an example of the six-second rule in action.
"JJ, it's time to sweep the kitchen floor. Go get
the broom. Start from the far end of the kitchen.
Then, work toward the doorway."
Remember to limit one task to each sentence.
And pause at each period.
A sentence is too long if you use the word "and."
I invite you to conduct a scientific experiment.
Go talk to your child in six-second bits. Use
single-idea sentences.
Then be quiet and watch for his or her response.
Prepare for the magic.
The beauty of it all is… This is only the
beginning!
In Part 3 of this report, you'll learn how to
correct one of the main causes of your child's
meltdowns.
Sincerely yours in parenting success,
Debra Sale Wendler
P.S. Please watch your inbox in for ADD/ADHD
Parenting Report 3: "The 15 Red-Flag Meltdown
Mouthfuls."
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